All Metaphysics

Buddha once said that the only thing that stays the same is that everything changes. I can think of thousands of things that I wish had never changed and yet when I think real hard about it, most of those things actually are good changes. However there are always changes out of our control that feel the worst, painful. How can we best survive these kinds of change?

Going through a change that was not our choice is probably one of the most painful things we can experience. We feel a loss of control, because we have none, never did. Within this month my family and I have three anniversaries that are for changes out of our control. We will see the anniversary of a year without our mother, a year and three months without our father and six months without my nephew.

This is the kind of change I want to talk about today. As difficult as these changes are to even think about, let alone talk about, I know that I am not alone. I know that everyone has or will be experiencing this kind of loss. There is no way to make it change and go back to what was so we need to learn how to allow ourselves to grieve with no boundaries. If someone thinks you should be over it by now no matter how long it has been, then they either have not experienced grief or not in the same way as you. We are all different, thankfully.

Grief is love. We grieve when we have a loss of someone we love. I can’t tell you that it will go away but I can tell you that you can become bigger than it at some point if and when you’re ready. I’m not sure I’m ready to be that person to give any advice about that just yet. The losses are all real fresh in my life and dealing with all of the firsts is humbling to say the least. First holidays, first birthdays etc etc. Feeling the pain over the loss of the life of such a young man as my nephew is raw and knowing the depth of his parents and siblings pain is ever present in my soul right now.

One thing I can cling to is that energy is what makes us all alive and energy can not be stopped. It has to go somewhere and I believe these loved ones are still here in some form with us. I see signs of them in many things such as songs I hear, animals I see, clouds and certain circumstances that happen. My mom loved cardinals and honestly, I never even saw them in the wild until she passed away. I feel her visits each time they show up now. I feel these loved ones speaking to me through showing me things and I feel their presence. If we look for the signs we will see them.

No matter what your beliefs are about the afterlife, pay attention to the sights, sounds and feelings around you and decide if you’re experiencing messages. Sometimes a rainbow becomes the best gift ever on a day you really needed it. I’m sending love to all of you grieving the loss of loved souls in the flesh, may you find some love and peace in the messages you see, feel or hear.