All Metaphysics

Carolyne Myss spoke those words in her Gaia tv show, Sacred Power. The words grow bitter or get better rang so true that I couldn’t help but pick this topic for this weeks blog post. She calls this “woundology”, when we use our wounds as clout, because unfortunately, wounds have way more clout than healing.

We are deeply supported within our society if we are wounded. We believe our wounds should never happen to us and we are ready for someone to pay for the wound or take care of us because of it. That seemed hard to hear because I can think of many wounded people that want healing, want peace and want freedom. Or so they think they do. At some point though, if we accomplish good health this requires us to be fully responsible. We no longer have an excuse to not carry our full selves in life. We have also been conditioned to think that being normal means damaged.

Carolyne also went on to talk about forgiveness being the most unreasonable thing we have to do, but the one thing that disempowers our wounds. The forgiveness might be for ourselves! As I listened to this I thought of one particular client of mine that suffered such a huge loss in her life. She struggles with mental and physical pain daily because of her painful grief. When working with her one day she said I am not ready to do this, I’m not ready to heal. I was so ready to help her and yet she was just not ready. Her reasoning was that she carried a sense of responsibility for the loss, a guilt and a longing to correct anything from the past to change the outcome. In her words, “if I stop feeling this crappy then it would be like not honoring the loss or disowning my guilt”. This was her road block to healing and she realized it all on her own. We all can do this.

Some people use their wounds as a manipulation tool, often times unconsciously. “I am injured, therefor you must treat me differently”. An expectation of “injured and special”, “my pain is bigger than yours” and “how could you, when you know I’m damaged?” This often looks like us owning the wound as if we WERE the wound and the healing will depend on our willingness to do as Carolyn says, get bitter or get better.

Think about the wounds you talk about. The wounds you share with others so they can really understand just who you are by you identifying your wounds from all areas of your life. Think about a quiet wound that you suffer in silence. Is there a wound you are ready to release? The wound that you’re frankly tired of feeling, talking about, experiencing? Is there a healing story you would rather tell? Healing is possible, once we discover what it is that’s keeping you from healing the process gets easier.